Three Encouragements for your Marriage
It is always fascinating to speak with people who have been married 50 years or more. I always ask them how they would encourage younger couples to stick to each other in good times and in bad. After asking many couples, these three points found below emerge as some nice encouragements that are tried and true. I pray that they will be helpful to you in your vocation (i.e. calling from God) in living out Holy Matrimony!
1. Strive for a well-ordered love, because disordered love is no love. And disorder is a seedbed for conflict and stress. Plan your lives, your priorities together. Don’t let your calendar dictate to you but you dictate to your calendar. Reverence each other’s unique gifts and build on them.
2. Know each other’s weaknesses, help each other to grow, but never use them against each other. We are made in weakness that we might supply for each other. Each of your weaknesses is an opportunity for Christ to supply his sufficient grace through the other. Learn to laugh at your own foibles, to laugh with the other over their foibles; but never laugh at the other’s foibles.
3. Remember every day that marriage is a gift from God placed like the Blessed Sacrament in your hands, hands which God has joined. You are Christophers, Christ-bearers. Every dimension of your being is to become a grace-giving Sacrament, a lived Liturgy, a total Offering, a holy Mystery of divine and human love. Your every gesture, lived in fidelity to your promises, saves the world. Rejoice that you have become God-with-us, embodying Him in a way absolutely and uniquely yours.
God bless you and your families this week!